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May 2025
We’re having sex inside Moby Dick! The wild architectural world of Japan’s love hotels
From cruise ships to UFOs, from King Kong to a giant whale, half the sex in Japan may take place in its dazzlingly imaginative love hotels. But have some become just too seedy? Our writer checks in
This is how we do it
This is how we do it: ‘We don’t need sex for intimacy – we walk around naked, kiss and flirt’
Lucy and Kyra have accepted that their libidos differ – and their sex life ebbs, flows and evolves accordingly
Leading questions
I’m considering dating again. Should I stop having sex with my ex?
This may be the best sex of your life thus far, says advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but does that mean it’s the best sex can possibly be?
April 2025
Sexual healing
My husband is more attractive than I am – and it makes me feel like an inadequate lover
This is how we do it
This is how we do it: ‘I’m from an evangelical Christian family and didn’t know what an orgasm was till I was 24’’
The Week in Patriarchy
Alert! Gwyneth Paltrow is eating pasta again
Arwa Mahdawi
Leading questions
I want to start dating casually. How do I turn off the illogical, hopelessly romantic part of my brain?
Gillian Anderson announces ‘even more daring’ follow-up to bestselling book of sexual fantasies
Sexual healing
I love my partner - but my desire for queer intimacy has become all-consuming
Teenagers having sex is news to no one. Thank goodness the government has seen sense on this
Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett
This is how we do it
This is how we do it: ‘Being with him again is bliss. I’ve not had an orgasm during sex since we broke up in 1982’
Sexual healing
Should I stay with my partner – despite the dull, dispassionate sex?
This is how we do it
This is how we do it: ‘If one of us is on a business trip and meets someone, we’re free to pursue it’
Sexual healing
My wife and I are suffering ‘lesbian bed death’. Is there any way back?
Demise review – an enjoyably ludicrous throwback to 90s erotic thrillers
‘Flying is an act of surrender’: a new novel about a woman who wants to be ravished by an Airbus
This is how we do it
This is how we do it: ‘Trying for a baby has improved our sex life – we’re more adventurous’
TV review
Dying for Sex review – Michelle Williams’ erotic journey is revolutionary TV
Sexual healing
Sexting an old friend was exciting – but now I can’t face sleeping with my husband
March 2025
Love, actually: how intimacy survives marriage and motherhood
Saman Shad
The key isn’t chasing some impossible ideal of passion that never fades but learning to appreciate love in all its evolving forms
